Day 20 :: Simply Being
These moments are precious – the times where we sit and simply be together.
They like having tea parties with me, out of good china cups.
They want me to build legos with them.
To help them clean their room.
To take my turn on their skateboards and on the trampoline and on the park swing.
They want just one more story.
They want a dinosaur kiss, a butterfly kiss, a doggy kiss, a bear kiss and every other animal type kiss they can come up with in the moments before the lights get turned out at bedtime.
I don’t always do what it is they’d like – as innocent and sweet and meaningful as it would be to build those bridges, sometimes I am too tired – too selfish. And I mean that. I am fully aware that there are times that it is important for children to do things on their own to learn, grow and develop and I work to intentionally build that in.
But despite my short comings these kids love me.
And I so badly want to create this deep bond with my boys now so that later on, years from now, they’ll know – really know – that I like who they are and that I have always been interested in them and the things they like.
Right now that means china tea cups in tepees.
But years from now it will be bigger stuff – interesting stuff.
Interactions with people. Their thoughts on life. The direction they want to take their life.
But somehow that I can’t fully explain, having not yet been through that interesting stuff, I know that how they interact with people then, what their thoughts are going to be and the direction they want to go in life are all being molded right now by the simple moments we spend just being.
And even though I am not perfect at the simply being part all the time it is something I will strive over and over again towards.
Because all too soon these little lives will be big lives and I don’t want them to feel like I suddenly show up – I want them to know I have always been there.
The fabulous tepee came from the sweetest and most generous Tracie.
Day 20 of 31 Days of Communicating With Our Children. Click here to see all posts in this series.