Day 20 :: Simply Being
2012
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These moments are precious – the times where we sit and simply be together.
They like having tea parties with me, out of good china cups.
They want me to build legos with them.
To help them clean their room.
To take my turn on their skateboards and on the trampoline and on the park swing.
They want just one more story.
They want a dinosaur kiss, a butterfly kiss, a doggy kiss, a bear kiss and every other animal type kiss they can come up with in the moments before the lights get turned out at bedtime.
I don’t always do what it is they’d like – as innocent and sweet and meaningful as it would be to build those bridges, sometimes I am too tired – too selfish. And I mean that. I am fully aware that there are times that it is important for children to do things on their own to learn, grow and develop and I work to intentionally build that in.
But there are other times that I am just intentionally lazy and selfish. And I hate that.
But despite my short comings these kids love me.
And I so badly want to create this deep bond with my boys now so that later on, years from now, they’ll know – really know – that I like who they are and that I have always been interested in them and the things they like.
Right now that means china tea cups in tepees.
But years from now it will be bigger stuff – interesting stuff.
Interactions with people. Their thoughts on life. The direction they want to take their life.
But somehow that I can’t fully explain, having not yet been through that interesting stuff, I know that how they interact with people then, what their thoughts are going to be and the direction they want to go in life are all being molded right now by the simple moments we spend just being.
And even though I am not perfect at the simply being part all the time it is something I will strive over and over again towards.
Because all too soon these little lives will be big lives and I don’t want them to feel like I suddenly show up – I want them to know I have always been there.
The fabulous tepee came from the sweetest and most generous Tracie.
Day 20 of 31 Days of Communicating With Our Children. Click here to see all posts in this series.
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LOVE this!! I am always so inspired by your thoughts and words, Jessica! I feel so blessed to have discovered your blog! So many times, you've so beautifully put into words what has been in my thoughts and on my mind. Sometimes it's really hard for me to "Simply Be", but it's been something I've been really trying to focus on lately!! And those pics of you and the boys…they are simply PRICELESS!
You are always so encouraging – I am humbled. Thanks for the kind words!
this post brought a smile to my face!!
This is something that I struggle so much with. It always seems like there is something more important that I should be doing, some cleaning or something on my list. I just need to sit down and play with my kids more! Thank you!
It is something I need to remind myself of often – but I can only imagine that in the end it will have been SO WORTH WHILE!
"Because all too soon these little lives will be big lives and I don’t want them to feel like I suddenly show up – I want them to know I have always been there."
….I actually had tears in my eyes reading this. Thank you for so beautifully describing how we can parent and nurture our children all along. You are such an encouragement to me.
Thank YOU for your kind words!