It’s Not About Them


 But if our children can see that through their obedience they are honoring God they are seeing how they can shoulder this higher calling to glorify and honor Him. Obedience isn’t about them complying to our instructions.  It’s not about them at all. {And it’s not about us either!!} It’s about them obeying God and thereby honoring God.

This is a tough one as a mom – communicating that it’s not about them – because as a mom so much of my life is about them. But the significance in raising our children for them to see that it’s not about them is that we then have the opportunity to point them to who it really is all about; the Lord Jesus. 

This means that I should be elevating the mundane into acts of worship. I should be joyful and thankful while I tackle the tasks set before me. That which is sacred, or “spiritual”, and that which is a daily routine should not be separated – “And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus…”

Ruth Graham had a sign over her sink that read “Divine services held here three times a day.”

A beautiful and natural way that we can show our children that the world does not revolve around them is to show them in our daily responsibilities that we serve the Lord and are doing so to bring Him glory, and that their highest responsibility is to glorify and honor God.

When we talk about obedience in our house we {mostly} point out that they are obeying God when they obey us. God has instructed them as children to obey their parents in all things. {We as parents bare an enormous responsibility and we must not abuse this authority! It is a much heavier load on our shoulders that our children are instructed to obey us in all things than it is on their shoulders to follow through with that!} But if our children can see that through their obedience they are honoring God they are seeing how they can shoulder this higher calling to glorify and honor Him. Obedience isn’t about them complying to our instructions.  It’s not about them at all. {And it’s not about us either!!}
It’s about them obeying God and thereby honoring God.

Sally Lloyd Jones has written a beautiful children’s Bible storybook – Every Story Whispers His Name. We use the audio version of it and the boys have listened to it at least twenty times. It’s excellent! In this book she shows children how each story points to Christ – that the Bible is all about Him. She has also written an article entitled Teach Children the Bible Is Not About Them. I highly recommend checking out the book and popping over to read the article, here is a small excerpt from it about why she wrote the book and what she wants children to know;

That the Bible isn’t mainly about me, and what I should be doing. It’s about God and what he has done.

That the Bible is most of all a story — the story of how God loves his children and comes to rescue them.

That — in spite of everything, no matter what, whatever it cost him — God won’t ever stop loving his children… with a wonderful, Never Stopping, Never Giving Up, Unbreaking, Always and Forever Love.

That the Bible, in short, is a Story — not a Rule Book — and there is only one Hero in the Story.

I wrote The Jesus Storybook Bible so children could meet the Hero in its pages. And become part of his Magnificent Story.

Because rules don’t change you.

But a Story — God’s Story — can.

 King of Glory is another book that does an incredible job at sharing the story of God’s redemptive plan – that puts the focus on the Lord Jesus Christ and helps emphasize to our children that it’s not about them.

This was originally posted as Day 30 of 31 Days of Communicating With Our Children. Click here to see all posts in this series.

 

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Jessica Lynette